Tuesday, October 8, 2013

Why him? Why her?



Dr. Helen Fisher, an anthropologist at Rutgers University and scientist behind Match.com, gave a lecture discussing the biological reasons that humans fall in, and stay in, love. During “Lust, Romance, Attachment: The Drive to Love and Who We Choose,” Dr. Fisher discusses the four main categories (based on the chemicals in the brain) that a person can fall into that define their love personality. These four groups are: Dopamine, Serotonin, Testosterone, and Estrogen and Oxytocin. Which group we are in determines whether we fall in love with those who are similar to us or different. But, as Dr. Fisher also points out, there are many factors involved when two people fall in love. So why do two people fall in love? Why don’t they fall for someone else? In Cymbeline, why does the King’s daughter marry against her family’s wishes? Based on Fisher’s categories, some people are more likely to fall for someone that is of a different category. Although socioeconomic status, intelligence, education, physical features, religion, and social values are very important in a relationship, they are not always this way. Why would Imogen fall for Posthumus if she knows he is below her? They have many things in common. But if Imogen is the Testosterone or Estrogen groups, she will seek a partner who is unlike her.
The drive to fall in love is deeply rooted in humans and is often stronger than the sex drive. When someone falls in love, certain regions of the brain involved in basic decision-making shut down, allowing us to look past someone’s flaws or circumstances. This is possibly the reason why Imogen, and many other Shakespearean characters, fall in love outside of their social circles, even if it means risking their own family relations.

1 comment:

  1. Meredith, it sounds as though this was a very compelling lecture; I hope you enjoyed it. I certainly appreciate your overview. These chemical categories give us one way of making sense of (the perversities of) human desire and affection. At least, they give us a how, if not exactly a why. It's interesting that Shakespeare's characters seem to fit in Fisher's paradigm, but I wonder whether you think Shakespeare cares about the how or why of love in Cymbeline. Is love in that play based on difference or similitude? Or does the play show ambivalence on that subject? (We've talked about the inconsistent representation of 'nobility.') And by making love so entangled with misrecognition, Shakespeare seems to insinuate that chemistry can't have the last word--we may desire our opposite, but do we recognize him as such? I would like to see you mull over these implications a little. You could use a bit of productive friction in here. But this is good work and a strong choice of Themester event.

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